I believe most fathers truly want their sons to be at peace with who they naturally are: males. I believe we seek best practices for our sons to realize their potential to become men. And I believe we are typically motivated naturally to help and not hinder that process.
What is Speaking Life? - Part III: Through My Mate's Eyes
In my last blog, I mentioned 5 Clear Communication steps summarized as being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Focusing on the middle step is rare. It kind of dissolves between listening with haste and delaying ire. Most think it’s a nice way of saying put a clamp on it, which it does, but not just verbally but also cognitively. Stop your inner tapes while your partner is sharing, complaining, pleading, or pontificating.
What is Speaking Life? - Part II
What is Speaking Life? - Part I
Silly Arguments May Mean More Than We Realize
All of us naturally bring into our relationships biases, visual encumbrances, and auditory filters. These stem from the everyday praxis of rules and styles of communication imprinted in our families of origin. These are not endemically good or bad, yet sometimes they are weighted down by rigidity and myopia, or undefined by permissiveness and inconsistency.